If you are like us, you wake up every morning looking forward to receiving blame and criticism. Just kidding. For most of us, the dread of receiving difficult feedback messages can be paralyzing, locking us into an internal demand for unachievable perfection. This week, we will explore becoming more liberated from the terror of feedback, and see that feedback is not only necessary but can be deeply transformative and connective.

Join us, Jim and Jori, and the community to find more ways to support yourself and others’ wellbeing, and get needs met with less costly ramifications. We are continuing our exploration of the Pathways to Liberation Matrix with Openness to Feedback. This skill entails receiving others’ perspectives about our actions with equanimity and centeredness.

• UNSKILLED: Feedback means something is wrong or right with self or other. Feedback is interpreted as criticism or praise.
• AWAKENING: Has desire to transform one’s own reactivity around receiving feedback.
• CAPABLE: Understands that feedback from another is the other’s perspective and connects it to the other’s need; connects one’s own reaction to feedback to one’s own needs.
• INTEGRATED: Receives feedback as information to be considered, with clarity of choice. Aware that others are speaking from their own perspective.

We will offer concrete skills and steps for practicing compassion and leadership in your life, focusing on learning and practice. You will have the option to meet with others in small groups that can support compassion and mutual learning, as we continue to explore ways to support integrating skills for making life more wonderful. We will open the meeting 15 minutes early at 6:15 pm US-PT for connection together, and aim to start promptly at 6:30 US-PT to maximize time for learning and practice. You are also welcome to stay afterward for continued community time. Feel free to forward this to friends.

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In this session, we will be continuing to explore the Pathways to Liberation Matrix practices that support the skill of Responding to Others’ Reactivity, From Patience to Responding: Now what? We don’t have control over how other people respond to us, and we can have influence. What we say or do can support wellbeing and connection or feed disconnection from self and others. Join us, Jim and Jori, and the community to find more ways to support yourself and others’ wellbeing, and get needs met with less costly ramifications.

From the Pathways to Liberation Matrix: Responding to Others’ Reactivity: Responding rather than reacting to others who are caught up in intense separating emotions.

• UNSKILLED: Reacts habitually with defensiveness, submissiveness, or avoidance when others are triggered.
• AWAKENING: Increasingly notices one’s own habitual reactions and their effect on connection.
• CAPABLE: Increasing self-connection and ability to choose empathy or honesty when in the presence of other’s reactivity; opening to curiosity about others’ perspectives.
• INTEGRATED: Responds to other’s reactivity with centeredness; accepts other when other is triggered; ability to be present.

We will offer concrete skills and steps for practicing compassion and leadership in your life, focusing on learning and practice. You will have the option to meet with others in small groups that can support compassion and mutual learning, as we continue to explore ways to support integrating skills for making life more wonderful. We will open the meeting 15 minutes early at 6:15 pm US-PT for connection together, and aim to start promptly at 6:30 US-PT to maximize time for learning and practice. You are also welcome to stay afterward for continued community time. Feel free to forward this to friends.

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Offered weekly with compassionate giving and receiving gift economy. Each week is a stand-alone. Feel free to forward this to friends. All are welcome.

Last Monday became an excellent opportunity for many to practice the skill of Patience, which coincidentally is our next session on the Pathways to Liberation Matrix we will cover this week!! We regret any impact it may have had on you. As a result of a lack of clarity between Jim and Katrina, some of you waited in one Zoom room while Katrina waited in another. Katrina figured out the problem, and much to our amazement 40+ people hung in there for 40+ minutes. Thank you! And thanks Katrina for troubleshooting.

From the Pathways to Liberation Matrix, Patience is the skill of remaining spaciously present when one feels stress. An ability to be with one’s own reactions, without acting out of them.

• UNSKILLED: Usually relates with an intention to get what one wants, and/or with submissiveness.
• AWAKENING: Impatient or distracted by own impulses; interrupts; tendency to act with reactivity.
• CAPABLE: Working to expand one’s range of acceptance and the ability to pause in self-connection before responding to reactivity.
• INTEGRATED: Naturally self-connects and opens when one experiences constriction or urgency, and has willingness to wait.

We will offer concrete skills and steps for practicing compassion and leadership in your life, focusing on learning and practice. You will have the option to meet with others in small groups that can support compassion and mutual learning, as we continue to explore ways to support integrating skills for making life more wonderful. We will open the meeting 15 minutes early at 6:15 pm US-PT for connection together, and aim to start promptly at 6:30 US-PT to maximize time for learning and practice. You are also welcome to stay afterward for continued community time. Feel free to forward this to friends.

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